Would you be willing to engage in a threesome sex? Well, the idea looks perfect for a movie script than a real life happening.
But to one 27-year-old woman identified as NMM, being bombarded with such suggestions was the shock of her life, especially from a man she had always lived with as her husband. This ruined her sex life. It was distasteful.
When NMM got married to a 75-year-old UK national identified as GRS in August 2011, she did not know she would have to share her matrimonial bed with another woman.
They married at the Mombasa registrar’s office and lived in Mtwapa.
After a year into the marriage, the unthinkable happened. GRS suggested to the wife that they bring in a third party into their matrimony. NMM opposed the suggestion. She could not tolerate the idea. Over time, the husband insisted and would bring another woman, requesting they engage in threesome sex. Still, she objected flatly.
These are the details contained in a court document filed by NMM when she sought divorce, which the she was granted.
NMM said the husband used his hands on her private parts “in the name of having sex”.
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The man became violent and abusive and would beat her senselessly after she turned down the offer.
“I registered my troubles with my parents, but they told me to be patient. My husband could not allow me to report to the police,” she said in an affidavit.
NMM said she attempted to get a divorce from her estranged husband who however refused to grant her.
After filing the matter in court and serving it on the husband, he ran to the UK never to come back.
NMM lawyer Stephen Oddanga urged the court to grant her client the divorce so she could move on with her life.
Oddanga said NMM had done all her best to keep her marriage, but it was difficult because of her husband’s cruelty.
He told the court that GRS had once threatened to kill her.
“As a result, my client lost her urge for sex, lost her self-esteem and faced ridicule from society since the husband had been ridiculing her openly,” he said.
Judge Mugure Thande, while granting the divorce, said cruelty and irretrievable breakdown of relationships were statutory grounds for dissolution of a marriage.
Thande said she did not doubt the petitioner’s testimony on cruelty and the husband's move to introduce a third party into their matrimony.
She said the parties had not cohabited again since their separation in July 2015; hence, the union was irreversibly broken down.
“I pronounce a decree of divorce and order that the marriage between the parties is dissolved,” Thande said.