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September 20, 2018

Do Hand Jobs Cause Cancer?

Hi Valentine,

So for example if you have a girlfriend who likes going direct to your private parts, especially the penis and she starts pulling your penis (hand job), when you want to have sex, what are the consequences or the impact?

Can you get cancer? Can you start having premature ejaculation? Is it also the right way to prepare for sex? Because it happened that one day I ejaculated before even the penetration.

Victor M

Wow Victor, your question is a plea for more comprehensive sex education in our schools.  But in lieu of that, you have me.

I don’t even know where to start so I will just deal with each question individually. As you have seen one of the consequences of a hand job is pleasure and that pleasure can lead to orgasms and ejaculation. You can ask your partner to stop before you ejaculate so that you can have your orgasm during intercourse or you can have your orgasm during the hand job. It is up to both of you.

No, hand jobs will not give you cancer. Our bodies consist of organs that are made of cells. These cells die or get damaged and they are constantly being replaced by new ones. At any given time, you can have a bunch of cells that grow abnormally and form a tumour.  If the tumour grows uncontrollably and invades other organs, it is termed cancerous, but if not it is termed benign.  A hand job is the physical equivalent of pulling on your ear. Just as your mother pulling your ear didn’t give you ear cancer, neither will a hand job.

Premature ejaculation is when you ejaculate sooner than you or your partner would like. This happens to most men at some point in their sexual careers but it is only a cause for worry if you are consistently leaving your partner dissatisfied. You may find that hand jobs are particularly pleasurable and they make you orgasm faster than intercourse. If, however you can still control your ejaculation during intercourse and make sure that your partner has an orgasm, I wouldn’t worry about it too much unless she complains.

There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to prepare for sex between two consenting adults.  If it makes you both happy and you are both comfortable, then do it. Victor it sounds like you are wondering if you are ‘normal’ or ok. It also sounds like you really enjoy hand jobs but you have some kind of guilt attached to them. Perhaps you were taught that masturbation is wrong and now you are enjoying masturbation with a partner’s hand and that is what is bothering you?  Allow yourself some freedom. Your partner touched your body and you liked it. That is how sex is designed – to give each other pleasure through touch, kissing, whispering sweet nothings…

Also, please talk to your partner about your sex life?  She is the person you are having sex with so tell her what you like, ask her what she likes and go from there.  Enjoy!

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