First Time Sex : Do's and Don'ts

Thinking of having sex for the first time? It’s normal to be nervous. All first-timers face the same kind of anxiety. We’d like your first time to be pleasant and memorable, so here are our top tips.

DO…

• Be comfortable
  Your first time having

  should be with someone you trust and like or love. You shouldn’t have sex under any kind of pressure – whether it’s from your partner or your peers. You should make this choice by yourself and feel comfortable with it.

• Build up slowly
  Foreplay is an essential part of sex. Kiss, caress, hug and touch each other in ways you enjoy. If you’re a woman about to lose your

  , you’re probably worried that sex will be painful. But it doesn’t have to be if you’re well-lubricated. Of course women become wet naturally when they are aroused, so it’s important to take the time to get really turned on before he puts his penis in your vagina. A water-based lubricant can also make the process easier.

• Pay attention to your partner
  It’s vital to communicate during sex. You can do so by talking to each other sensually or by making gestures or with eye contact. The key is to always be aware of your partner’s feelings. This way you will know whether your partner enjoys what you’re doing or not.

• Say ‘no’ if you’ve changed your mind
  While you’re in bed with your partner, you might want change your mind about going all the way. You have every right to say no at any time. If your partner truly cares for and loves you, he or she will stand by your choice and give you as much time as you need to be OK with losing your virginity.

DON’T…

• Forget contraception
  Use a

  and preferably another form of

  . While condoms protect you against sexually transmitted diseases, the contraceptive will safeguard you against pregnancy in case the condom rips or slips.

• Do it if you’re too drunk
  While a little bit of alcohol can help you break the ice and start a conversation, too much of it can impair your judgement. You might regret your actions the next morning. Being drunk could also carry other risks such as forgetting to use condoms or contraceptives.
• Have very high expectations
  Don’t assume that first-time sex will be earth-shattering. Most likely, it won’t be. Sex gets better as you get to know a person over time and build a lasting relationship with them. So if first-time sex doesn’t end up being as exciting as you imagined it to be, don’t fret. This is just the beginning!