In the past, men were universally associated with wisdom, respect, protection, provision, bravery and leadership. A man's character was defined by the conduct of his family. He took pride in his children and wife for their good behaviour and excellence in life. In challenging times, the hope of societies rested on the shoulders of men.
Contrarily, in recent times, we have a generation of lackadaisical and apathetic men who shy away from their responsibilities. They have relinquished their roles, leaving the women to bear the burdens of both the father and mother figures in the family. They seem more familiar with EPL clubs than with the subjects their children are studying.
These lazy men excel in identifying the latest liquor stores in town, the EPL fixtures for the weekend and the betting odds per match from Kenyan leagues to Chinese and Saudi leagues.
These men no longer provide for their families, offering excuses at every turn. They remain in bed while their wives venture out to provide for the family or spend their days analysing the current state of the economy and the threat of climate change from roadside spots.
This new breed of men is engrossed in using Instagram filters more than women. They have neglected their physical well-being. Their appearance is comparable to that of an 11-month pregnant toad. And what about promiscuity! These men are preoccupied with indulging in excess, endangering the lives and health of their children.
Young men in their twenties do not want to think. They consider fraudulent activities easier than utilising their skills, sweat and knowledge to earn a living. They indulge in heavy drinking, resembling a dying fly on a festering wound. After a night of drinking and partying, they return to their families, unleashing chaos and conflict, waking everyone with deplorable abuses and merciless beatings.
Men must realise that it's high time to rise to the occasion and reclaim their original and rightful position in society. They should acknowledge that they mirror leadership, mentorship, wisdom and bravery to the community.
It's essential for them to take charge of their physical health through mindful eating and drinking habits. They must prioritise hitting the gym and staying physically fit. Men should carve out ample time for their families, especially those with school-going children.
Failing to do so, we risk swallowing a bitter pill, akin to a razor-edged plate, down our throats. We must summon our inner strength, elevate ourselves, and become exemplary role models in society.
As the saying goes, challenging times forge tough men who, in turn, craft good times. But these good times are nurturing a generation of lethargic men who are unwittingly fabricating tough circumstances for society.
President, Clinical Medicine Students Association of Kenya and finalist student, Kenya Methodist University
