• Dating, as with drugs, is like chasing the white rabbit, or that elusive high
I catch a lot of flak for my lifestyle of going on singular dates with singular ladies.
For some people, it stems from a good place forever marred by convention and misguided traditions. For others, it’s pure unadulterated jealousy. Period. I mean, everyone considers a gold-plated Ferrari a complete waste of money until they can afford one. Then it becomes an item in a bucket list.
Among several personal reasons responsible for my decisions is a theory applied mostly in the world of drug junkies. In case of a drug like crack cocaine, a person can become addicted after only one use (which is the best reason never to try any drug). That initial sensation is often described as a magical trip to an unreal world of untold pleasures and wonders.
That beautifully strong feeling is only experienced once. A person will keep taking more drugs in higher doses, hoping to go on that trip again in a phenomenon called “chasing the white rabbit”. And that’s how (in a nutshell) addiction begins.
Dating, to me at least, is very similar to chasing the white rabbit. The first date is magical. You’re exploring each other’s worlds, getting to discover a brand-new human. Their loves, fears, pet peeves, quirks.
At first, it’s awkward. How do you go about it? Aggressively or passively? Do you first dip a leg into the water or go for a belly flop?
Once that stage passes, it’s open season on anything and everything. That magic ends when you call it a night. Or if the date went superbly, when you begin trading items of clothes in the morning.
“Have you seen my bra?”
“No, but that’s my boxers you’re holding.”
In all subsequent dates, couples are only chasing the white rabbit from their first encounter. Have you ever heard of couples trying to “rekindle” their romance? Yep! They’re going in search of the bunny. But Buggs is long gone, never to return.
I, on the other hand, have my rabbit as often as I can. No, dear friends, my gold-plated Ferrari is not a waste of money; it’s an item on my daily to-do list.
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