Take away from Adele–Oprah interview

Over the past two years, Adele, the “Hello” hit maker has been the subject of speculation after she lost almost 45 kilograms in a new exercise regimen.

Speaking during an interview with Oprah Winfrey’s CBS Special, the 33 year-old pop artist said she was ‘embarrassed’ by her divorce and that her transformation was mainly about controlling her anxiety.

“I had the most terrifying anxiety attacks after I left my marriage,” she said.

“It paralysed me completely and made me so confused because I wouldn’t be able to have any control over my body.”

Focusing on getting her mind right, Adele said she started going to the gym daily to ease her anxiety.

Winfrey also recalled her own experiences of weight loss, and how some people felt “upset” and “abandoned” when she first went on a diet.

“My body has been objectified my entire career, I'm either too big or too small; I'm either hot or not. But I was positive then and I'm positive now."

"It is not my job to validate how people feel about their bodies,” Adele said.

She noted that her anxiety was mostly triggered during the divorce and her friends would tell her to hold on.

"It was just exhausting trying to keep going with it. It's a process - the process of a divorce, the process of being a single parent, the process of not seeing your child every single day. It wasn't really a plan that I had when I became a mum," she told CBS.

Adele said that her current boyfriend, Rich Paul is hilarious, smart and makes her happy.

“I loved myself and been open to loving and being loved by someone else,” Adele confirmed.

Charles Kiongo, a relationship expert based in Nairobi says it time people let themselves feel and talk it out when then they feel stuck.

“Don’t rush into a new relationship, give yourself time to heal and find yourself,” Kiongo advised.

“Accept what’s done is done and also look for what works for you."

He said that people need to embrace coping skills, as it will save them a lot of emotional turmoil and self blame.