Want sex? Wife forces husband to take P2 box first

And women are getting sick and tired of that attitude and want men to play a role in family planning.

In fact, one woman in Kambiri, Kakamega, was so fed up with having to manage contraception, that she took drastic action.

First, she didn't take the pills and starved him of sex for three months.

Then she said if he wanted sex, he had to take a whole box of emergency contraceptives. The morning-after pill, commonly known as P2 (Postinor-2).

They are only to be taken by women and only occasionally, never as a regular method of contraception. Maybe she didn't know that.

Many women will identify with this story and maybe men might think about this a bit.

This is how it unfolded according to the parties involved and a doctor — who told the nauseous frightened man to be more considerate and play his role in family planning.

DK, 28, said his wife had expressed frustrations at being the only one taking family planning pills and had frequently gotten angry with him for leaving everything to her.

Three months without sex was driving him crazy.

DK, however, being a man who loved his wife and family said he could never cheat on his wife to satisfy himself. He begged her for his 'conjugal rights' to no avail.

“She said the only way she would allow me touch her is if I took the family planning pills that she has been taking,” he said.

DK, a father of four, said since he had gone for such a long time without sex, he agreed and took the P2 pills. 

The pills are packaged in twos to be taken 72 hours apart, one immediately after unprotected sex, the other 72 hours later.

She made him take the entire package of pills at once. 

“I didn’t feel anything until a few hours later when I felt like vomiting and my head was spinning. I was also having stomach pains,” DK said.

Then he asked his sister and friends who told him the pills were for women only, never men.

“I panicked and thought maybe my wife was actually trying to kill me by making me overdose on those pills so I rushed to the hospital," he said.

At a clinic in Kambiri, doctor in charge Dr Peter Kibe reassured he would be all right and gave him medication to ease the nausea.

Kibe also said men should take up leading roles in family planning and deciding what method is best. They shouldn't leave the entire burden to their wives to prevent desperate actions like those of DK.

“He will be fine," Kibe said.

"But what I see in this situation is a woman who was tired of what the family planning pills and injections were doing to her body," he said.

"And she wanted her husband to equally partake in the journey, only she went about it the wrong way.  Men need to understand they have a role to play too," he said.

Asked if he will forgive his wife, DK said he loves his wife and understands she meant him no harm.

“I love her and I know she loves me too, that’s why she didn’t go around cheating but tried to help in her own way for us to continue being a family.

"I need to learn how I can also take part in family planning so that she doesn’t suffer alone."

(Edited by V. Graham)