Actress Njambi left her 'narcissist' lover

She held onto her five-year come-we-stay for fear of being labelled 'failure'

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• Njambi said her baby daddy took care of his family but he disrespected her

Actress Njambi
Actress Njambi
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Former 'Real House Helps of Kawangware' actress Bernice Njeri, known by her role name Njambi, ended her relationship with her baby daddy Nelson this year.

Speaking to Word Is, the mother of two alleged that her lover was violent and a narcissist.

Njambi said she held onto her five-year come-we-stay marriage despite undergoing abuse because she feared being labelled a failure since she had also lost another relationship before.

"We have known each for about six years and lived together for five years," she said.

"We have not legally married but I left since he was very insecure and I felt drained in the relationship."

Njambi said although she wanted to protect his image, she spoke about the failed relationship since she wanted to encourage her fans.

"I tried to protect his image for a very long time. I think the moment I hinted about being in a troubled relationship caused an alarm on my social media, and so I wanted to just let people know it was over."

Njambi said her baby daddy was not a mean person, but he disrespected her.

"He provided for everything in the family but he was disrespectful," she said.

"He blocked my male friends and was every time questioning me about my whereabouts. And it drained me mentally."

Njambi said at some point, she lost herself and fell into depression and stopped doing what she loved. "I stopped doing videos on the blended family show."

She had hinted in an Instagram post on Sunday that she had one of her worst experiences in the relationship.

"The shame of being in a relationship or having fallen victim to an abusive relationship actually kept me in it longer than I should have been. I finally had the courage, and I'm sticking to that," she said.

Njambi said the fear was so much that it got to a point that she found it hard to move on from the relationship.

Asked if she is in communication with her ex-lover, with whom she has a son, Njambi said, "I don't think co-parenting will work for now."

"I will move on but I don't think marriage is for me. I am looking for someone who I will only be in a relationship with," she said.

"Living with a narcissist is very tough, and you can never identify them. I thought it a forever thing but fate happened."

Njambi also left her first baby daddy, with whom she has a daughter, due to violence.

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