SUNDAY SERMON

Church girls aren’t damaged goods, you are

If your main motivation for going to church is to find a wife, then you are the problem

In Summary

• Amerix erred with the claim that religious women aged 30+ are not wife material

• No one is righteous so who are you to hold other people's mistakes against them?

Putting a ring during wedding ceremony.Photo/Elkana Jacob
Putting a ring during wedding ceremony.Photo/Elkana Jacob

About a week ago, self-proclaimed masculinity expert Amerix tweeted something about born-again women that left me shaking with fury.

According to him, this type of girl, especially those aged 30 years and above, should not be touched by a 10-feet pole because they've wasted the best years of their lives hopping around with men and now want a 'simp' to settle down with. 

The Amerix tweet was met by a chorus of approval from hundreds of his disciples, some of whom said marrying such a woman is like buying a newspaper in the evening after everyone has touched and read it all day. 

There are many things I agree with Amerix on but on this one, it's an emphatic no! If your main motivation for going to church is to find a wife, then you are the problem. 

Don't you see how warped your thought process is if you commodify and objectify women as damaged or fresh goods? 

We have all committed sins that we would rather die than expose them publicly. Ecclesiastes 7:20 says no one is righteous, not even one. So what right do you have holding people's mistakes against them? 

Everyone deserves a second chance in life. Thanks be to God that He loved us while we were still sinners and gave up His only son Jesus to die for us that we may be saved — including these women you commodify as damaged goods. 

When I became born again three years ago, a friends I used to go 'dundaing' with said I was doing so to find an upright wife from the church. 

This is a misconception many men have about church girls and are utterly disappointed when they find out some of these women aren't as holy as they thought. 

Do not expect perfection from anyone. Even born-again people sometimes slip up and make mistakes. Furthermore, the devil sometimes masquerades as an angel of light to wreak havoc in the body of Christ. 

If you do not have a discerning spirit, then you are likely to end up with a wolf in sheep's clothing. Regardless of the character development you underwent with these women, it is a misnomer to conclude that all born-again women are pretenders. 

Instead, most of them are in church to encounter God and grow spiritually. I suggest that you should do the same. Matthew 6:33 says that we should seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all the other things will be added unto you. 

If you maintain your focus on God and delight in Him, He will duly fulfill the desires of your heart by leading you to that woman who will be a fit to you like hands on a glove.