The year 2022 is almost over and we still think we can punish and reward women with the promise of sex.
I do not know what you heard, but when women had no choices, they pretended your bed activities were really important to them. They figured if you felt good about your penis, you would beat them less and provide more.
Fast forward to now, we can put together one or two things and we do not really need to pretend about your lack of prowess in the bedroom. In fact, let me surprise you, most women have had the best sex with themselves, so can we just calm down.
I have said it before, both men and women need to learn the art of courtship. There is nothing unique you are bringing in terms of body parts. So we need to take it a step further and use another organ. The mind. It is really wrong to send another grown up a text saying “If you behave, I will rock your world.” This is not porn.
Speaking of texts, technology has been used to almost diminish the excitement of courtship. What with people wanting instant everything. Someone sends you a photo of his member with a caption “What do you want to do with it?” and he expects that somehow you have connected.
It can be difficult to think that technology can actually help.
You have access to your phone, sms and WhatsApp and if you put just a little thought into what you send someone, you may just be able to connect. Even if you just want a physical thing, you will most probably get it if you are one to use your brains.
These days men are so lazy that they think a “Hi beautiful, I like you” text is enough to grasp a woman’s attention. Or have women simplified things that much and I am out of the loop?
Try to imagine courtship in our parents days (if you are over 35). You see a woman you like, you get her postal address. You write her a letter and it would take you maybe a year to figure out that you have been blue ticked. It was worse for the women because if you saw a man you liked, you just stood there like a mango tree hoping he would ask for you P O Box.
Now imagine if you may that you can actually see someone you like on Facebook or Instagram (I am old school, I have not tried the others) and connect instantly and you want to say something stupid like, “Tell me you want me, is your vagina shaved or not?” Meanwhile, your profile says you sing in your church choir, the Lord is your shepherd and your wife is your best friend.
Whether you want a fling or something long term, technology is here for you. It does not require a lot of physical effort. I often wonder how someone can pretend to be so busy he cannot even spare all of two seconds to check in with you, then resurrect three days later with a “Hi stranger” text and expect everything to go back as usual.
How ungrateful can you be to technology? When your forefathers had to send letters, agree to meet at a spot in six months only for one to make it to the spot and another sadly died of small pox. The one who made it to the spot would forever feel rejected wondering what was wrong with them not knowing their partner died. (I know I am sensational, but imagine!)
What I am trying to say is this, we are using technology to do good in many areas of our life, we can also use it, for good, in our relationships. Do some research (not stalking) on the person you like, then approach thoughtfully. Do not Hi Hey Hae people to death. Get to the point quickly and tastefully. We know you know many things, you do not have to tell it all in one message.
Just because you are behind a screen does not mean the other person is not human, remember your manners. Lastly, have fun with it but do not be a creep.
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