A single mum posted on Twitter asking for recommendations for an Airbnb. She was having one of those moments: Overwhelmed by life and just needed a place that she could unwind within Nairobi.
I probably had things to do but I decided to go through the responses. She then posted again saying that men could clearly see she was having a vulnerable moment and were trying to take advantage of her in her inbox.
Reminds me of a meme: “Some men will see you struggling and still want to have sex with you...” (Partially quoted)
A woman posts a photo of herself on Facebook and the men pour into her inbox. Some who had even announced their pending nuptials to their queens and the love of their lives.
Seriously, is there a problem I do not understand?
I recently circulated a poster of my latest business venture. The responses from men, some that I had even tried to respect: “We need to take the place for a test run.” “When do we go there? Just me and you?”
Yes, it is an Airbnb. Yani, I would spend money investing in a space, use time and energy so that I can be ducked in it for free by lazy men who think their penises will answer all my problems.
Men have guts.
My friend recently hired a painter to paint her house. One random night, the painter sends her a text saying, “Usione vibaya, lakini nikiwa mkweli kwako ulinipendeza sana!” I said maybe he had sent it to her number by mistake, but the bugger had followed up with, “I hope kazi ilikua sawa.” It was meant for her.
How lucky can one person be yawa, he got a job for which he was paid and now wanted the employer.
I am all for high self-esteem. I admire that a man can walk around thinking all the women want to sleep with him. I think it would be appreciated more if you keep it to yourself or at least have the good sense to read a room or situation before offering your penis as a solution.
There is a reason sex workers are almost always high on something. It is not easy to sleep with a man, I have told you people this before. Especially a man you do not want. (I will let you in on a little secret, do not let porn cheat you; even with the men we like, sleeping with them takes a little getting used to.)
Can you imagine being overwhelmed by life and a strange man tells you that you need sex to make it better? His sex. Yuck! Even if you were having a good day, such feedback is guaranteed to make you throw up a little in your mouth.
I am willing to bet that you do not get women doing this. Stop it, the duck! You are creepy and rapey.
Sometimes women post their pictures on Facebook because they are feeling themselves. Listen, Facebook is not an “Only fans page” so there is no set agenda. Do not assume the new picture is for you, pervert. Nobody is thinking about you.
Women like the attention of men, this is not in doubt. The issue is that some men have no emotional intelligence. You cannot just see a woman minding her own business, or going through her own stuff or even engaging you in other matters and all you can offer is a chance to knock boots with you. Why not try a route that does not portray you as a rabid sex-starved dog?
You may not have considered this but sex with you is not the answer, it is not at the top of the list, it may not even be an option.
While technology has its upside, the downside is that it has given some weirdos guts. You are on the other side of the screen and you think it gives you the right to make women uncomfortable.
The next time you are on your phone and you have the urge to write a woman soliciting sex, maybe take seriously the option of getting psychiatric help. You are a sex offender.
