Men can tell the most ludicrous stories sometimes. What is amusing really is that they actually believe these tales and often repeat them with such confidence you might almost admire them.
I was sitting with a couple of such men the other day, purely by default. People needed to sit, tables were few, they joined ours.
I cannot remember the genesis of this particular story but one man said rather confidently that one could tell the condition (you know this is Mutua's air so stay with me) of a woman's vagina by the way she urinated in soil. If she was in good working condition, the urine would form a hole in the ground.
You see the way you are flabbergasted, I was too when I heard that. Apart from the obvious concern for the mental state of the narrator, I really wondered about some other maybe not so obvious things.
Did this man not have indoor plumbing? Why were his women peeing outside? Why was he watching and examining the aftermath? (This is a practice reserved for Jajuok (witch) where I am from) Why were these women urinating like cows?
What had they drunk? Did they know their pissing skills or lack thereof were under scrutiny? So many questions.
This quack continued to argue that the older a woman got, the less force her urine poured out of her. Basically trying to reinforce the age-old myth, a stupid one at that, that old(er) vagina is not good.
The pseudo gynaecologist was not a young man, he was older than we (my friend and I are).
We are also not as young. So I do not know whether that nonsense talk was for our benefit. Or he was just talking about his wife and other women in his family.
His friends seemed to agree with his narrative without even asking for the basis of this finding. Anyway, birds of a feather think about how women pee.
I understand men’s fascination with the vagina. I have one and I am intrigued by it.
This fascination though must never cross over to control which is almost always done by shaming.
Shaming by people who have no vagina.
Why men always want to control what happens down there is still a mystery.
First, they want you to keep it only for them, which would not be such a problem if they knew what to do with it when you finally allowed them there.
Now here is a man who has no vagina telling (lying really) everyone how one works and not for the purpose of helping (but how can he even help?), for the purpose of shaming older women mostly into not having or enjoying sex.
Can you imagine the number of women not enjoying sex because some loose-mouthed imbecile said there was something wrong with her vagina? I mean this surely requires a campaign.
It is so unfair that a woman will fulfil her duty to family and society then be labelled disabled, at the vagina.
In most cases, they grow up in a home where virginity is valued over anything. Marry a man, have his big-headed children then he decides there is something wrong with your vagina.
He will then look for younger women who he will entice with money and they will be cooing like pigeons not because of his sexual prowess, but because of his wallet. He will then live his life thinking women are the problem.
I would like to surprise many of you by telling you that bodies change. Even yours. Believe me.
If your wife or/and girlfriend could talk freely in public, we may need to have a huge safety net at KICC. It does not mean that there is something wrong with you, it means like everything in nature, things change and you must adapt. Evolve even. Maybe even see a doctor.
Some things do not get as hard as they used to, others not as wet. You may need to lie down flat, on a bed. Whatever it is, figure it out. Stop embarrassing yourselves in public. Stop shaming women.
Women can and should enjoy sex at whatever stage in life.
