“Girls what would you do if your boyfriend came to pick you up with his female friend. You get to the car and she is still sitting at the front?” I saw this trending image on Instagram sometime last week and after I brought up this question with my workmates it sparked a heated debate. It evoked all sorts of emotions from the men and the women.
All women said the friend should automatically step in the back seat and let the girlfriend be the co-driver. According to this gospel, the girlfriend does not need to tell her to move as it goes without saying. In scenarios where the woman does not take the hint and move to the backseat, the boyfriend who offered her a lift in the first place should suggest she moves to the back and let him sit with his First Lady.
There were also these women who went into overdrive and argued that he should not be giving this woman a lift in the first place as the only people who should be in that co-driver seat are his family members. Period. One lady stated so clearly that the only woman she would give the privilege of sitting as the co-driver in her presence was her mother-in-law.
In cases where the female friend refused to give the girlfriend the seat, the women stated clearly they would not ride with them anyway as she would feel disrespected by her man and his friend. Out of a case of 10 women, only one said she would not have a problem sitting at the back and even though the friend offered to move to the backseat,
she would willingly reject and hop in the back. “Most women who are speaking so bitterly about being the co-driver are insecure. And since I know my place in this man's life, I wouldn't be bothered by something like a seat,” said one woman among opposition by some of her female counterparts.
Men on the other hand seemed not to understand what the big fuss about sitting position in the car was. The discussion spiralling to one saying that if the girlfriend finds the friend sitting at the co-drivers seat, she should take the next available seat, which is at the back. A man even went ahead to say that if you are his girlfriend already, he has already chosen and hence this woman should not worry you just because she is the co-driver. After all, he wouldn't bring a woman he is trying to woo to meet you. Some even asked, what if this female friend does not know you are the girlfriend? This argument specifically irked the women because if you gave her a lift, what would you have probably been talking about the whole way if the conversation of I am going to pick my girlfriend did not pop up?
Which brings me to the double standards with our men today. Change gear to that same question reversed to the men and they went berserk. If you found your girlfriend with her man friend in the car and you find he is still sitting at the front what would you do? All of a sudden shifting position seemed to be an issue, and the men went on and on about how this said man would find himself in a hospital and how he would not even wait for the girlfriend to tell him to move over.
I don't know what's your opinion on this question but I for one know I wouldn't be setting foot into that backseat for the convenience of my boyfriend and his lady friend.
