Do you know why I always say women should do what they want? Besides the fact that that is what they want to do? Because society will always find a problem with whatever choice we make. This does not mean that we should move quietly. Live your life loudly.
Society is so interested in monitoring women and giving useless advice that often contradicts itself. For example, in the last couple of weeks trolls were on a woman because she had left her relationship with a man who has now got a pretty good position in government for a local musician. Apparently, that was not the best move for her.
The same trolls were also on yet another woman's case, a radio host, because she said she would never go out with a man who listened to a certain genre of music. You can imagine the uproar.
Instead of abusing women for their choices in men yawa, those of you who know the right men, si you go out with them? Why would a man feel bad that a woman does not want to go out with a man who listens to reggae? If it is really hurting you, you go out with him, ala.
Men feel so bad when a woman has preferences. Listen, women do not want every man because he walks upright. The problem is not women and what they want, the problem is men expecting a fair market not knowing that every brand has a target market.
Women, like men, know what their bare minimum is. The difference is unlike men, a woman may meet a man who is not in her league but will work towards getting into that tournament. A man on the other hand will think he can shame a woman into liking him. It is so ridiculous.
There is no difference between such a man and the phone conmen of Kamiti. The bugger will call you to say he has sent you M-Pesa, you will tell him he is a liar. He will then heap unfathomable abuses on you. As if once he is done abusing you, you will say to him, “Oh sorry, let me refund the M-Pesa you didn't send me!” Men who try to shame women into choosing them are conmen.
There is a woman, or women, for every man. Do not give yourself pressure then turn into a bitter man trolling women online. It is unattractive. You cannot walk to a Mercedes-Benz dealership with Black Mamba money and expect to talk, shame and abuse the dealer into selling you a car with your bicycle money.
Do you know how stupid you look? Your money is not enough even if you scream yourself hoarse. Just carry your heavy bones to the black mamba shop, there they will treat you like the king (of black mamba) you are.
It would all be so simple if we were self-cognisant. I remember once someone contracting a painter to paint her house. This man decided that his boss, a woman, was in his league. He sent a message professing his love for her and that is how he lost his job.
I am sure his version of the story goes something like this, “Women of these days like boasting, what does she think she has that other women do not have?” He should have done a bit of research, if she was the type to like painters, etc, maybe he would have had a chance.
Stop being lazy. I know it is so Nairobi like to buy a woman a whole two drinks then expect to duck her and her farm animals. I know they are about to say oh women are materialistic, etc. Yes, ok they are. No one wants to have sex with you because you spent money on two drinks.
And also if you do not want to go through the process, there are women who will give you services for your one thousand. Remember, we do not have to abuse the Mercedes-Benz dealer.
Lastly, most of these men who constantly abuse women they do not know are really just jealous of women that can pick without fear the men they want to be involved with and they cannot. Why are you feeling bad that a woman wants a provider? It is a free country, you also can get a man who is a provider.
