About two years ago, I wrote an article about how to know if a man is promiscuous or polygamous. I, however, now feel it is important to also figure out if you are a homewrecker or a wife, even though you may be wife number two, or five.
Why do we need this article? If only to answer the “I thought he’d leave his wife for me” or “ I will make him leave his wife” brigade.
We have valued this unnatural state of monogamy so much and as a result, contributed to the breakdown of the family in the African setting. This foreign concept has given rise to great businesses in the church and witchdoctor sectors.
Women giving copious amounts of money for prayers, miracles, portions, spells and whatever other strange concept to “get” and “keep” a man to herself.
Whether she found the man alone or he came with a wife or wives, the goal is a white wedding, white picket fence and new children. You will just conveniently forget his other children. All for the “modern”, church accepted marriage. The means justifies the end or is it the other way?
Friend, listen here, you are not a wife if you get into a relationship and start scheming. If your goal is to remove the sitting wife using whatever avenue, that is, prayer and fasting or bones and portions. You are a homewrecker. The devilish kind and God will judge you.
A wife will understand her place in the polygamous home. There is no competition as long as you are clear that you are not with a promiscuous man.
If you stalk his wife/ wives on the socials or wherever so you can gossip about her clothes, her hair, her body or how she dresses her children, you are not a wife you are an idler who really needs to get a life.
If you call her, abuse her, send her pictures of your community husband in a compromising position, worse still if you take it to social media, just to embarrass her, you are not a wife, you are a psychotic, attention-seeking drama queen. Get help. There are people who went to school for years to study your condition. They can help you.
A wife protects not only her husband’s image but that of her co-wife because mud on her, is mud on him, is mud on you. Think.
You have met a good man. He is not rich but he is a provider. Your needs will be met. But you want to take over all his time. You do not want him to go home, you make huge financial demands knowing full well he has dependents, you are a homewrecker. The wicked kind.
A wife adds value, you increase whatever you find instead of taking away.
If he is constantly berating his wife/wives to you and you sit there listening and grinning like a lizard. If you enjoy hearing or reading his texts as his wife or children ask for food, while you are stuffing your face with junk food that he has bought (Nani, he is not favouring you, he cannot afford to feed you and his family). You are a fool and have poor judgment (obviously) because this one is clearly just a promiscuous man. I wrote about this yawa, read.
Woman, if you cannot be your sister’s keeper, you are going to be a homewrecker. I am not saying you will be friends with your co-wife or wives. I am not even saying you will like each other. I am saying that you will recognise that she is a woman like you so you will not go out of your way to harass and mistreat her or her children.
I am so tired of this, he wasted me, I thought he would leave his wife for me. Why leave her? What has she done to him or even to you? Where will she go and she is his wife? If you want to be a wife, get in line, but do not try to break a marriage to be a wife.
Polygamy is not for everyone. If you cannot manage it, leave that man and his people, go get your own man (Please write me and tell me where single men are found, thanks)
