Hook up culture is getting involved with someone without any feelings being invested due to the fear of being lonely.
It is mostly done by youths of between the age of 19-26 years. This is according to life coach Shazmeen Bank.
This is an easier way to cub loneliness because having someone for a 'one-time thing' is much easier than getting into a long-term relationship.
It also happens in marriages.
Hookup culture comes with no expectations, no rules, no time and no boundaries involved because one has chosen to be promiscuous.
"People get hookup because they seem to feel they don’t have control over somebody else loving them and also don’t have control over a relationship that is not working out," Bank said.
This is when someone gets to meet their needs and still not fulfilling them while trying to protect themselves from getting hurt.
This lust triangle hurts because at the end of the day you are still empty and the person you are hooking up with doesn’t care.
"This habit comes with the cost of loosing control over your own body, loosing attachment to God, the shame of dealing with it, who to be, who not to be and the fact that you will not think about your future and one can never excel in life with games."
Women get involved because they confuse what they get from this habit with love. The fact that they gain material things like a new weave, get nails done and being surprised with gifts every other time, it still is not love.
The truth of the matter is that this person is in this state because they want to hide pain but they simply forget they are in more pain because they are trying to find love and companionship in these habits of theirs.
"It is very shocking that someone can trust another person not to love their whole being and involving emotions yet they trust and allow them to come into the deepest part of their bodies," the life coach said.
Along term relationship has a better cost because it allows you to grow whereas hooking up over and over shovels you to shrink.
