I know I had mentioned that a great number of my friends and people around me are getting married, but now it is kind of at an alarming rate.
I am already in two wedding WhatsApp groups for ceremonies meant for December.
These people are my friends but not such close friends of mine that they would send me an invitation to the wedding.
Anyway, I expect that more announcements of weddings will be coming my way after October because November and December are wedding and graduation seasons.
If you are not attending either of those, then I don’t know what the people in your social or family circle are doing.
One of my friends who is getting married is quite chatty and they like to engage us ‘Wedding Contribution’ group members often, so we don’t feel lonely in the group, I think.
Also, I guess it’s easier to raise funds for people when they feel like they are close to you, so they are constantly bringing up conversations for us to have.
One time, a group member called the couple Mr and Mrs ‘The Husband’s Name’ while offering his congratulations to them.
As a joke, another member addressed the couple as Mr and Mrs ‘The Wife’s Maiden Name’.
The whole group erupted in laughter, but I was waiting for someone to ask the burning question and throw a real spanner in the works.
“How did you guys agree on what your surnames would be after getting married?”
If no one would ask in the next 10 minutes of the conversation, then I told myself I would do it.
Someone did ask, but not the way I wished the question would be phrased.
They just asked what their surnames would be after they got married, which is less confrontational than the question I was going to ask.
The couple had decided to be Mr and Mrs ‘The Husband’s Name’, which is what most married couples do, at least in social situations.
I know my mother did not take my father’s name in her official documents, but she goes by his name in many social situations, like formal introductions at parties and such.
And then there are those rogue couples who choose to be called whatever they wish or not change their last names at all.
What informs the decision to take or leave a husband’s last name?
I know for many men, it can be a big deal because it’s about their legacy and whatnot.
Personally, if he has a funny-sounding last name, I would think twice before I take it.
I would probably employ the use of a hyphen between my maiden name and his last name, which is what I have seen many of my older ‘sisters’ do after they got married.
But I don’t know the logistics that go into that decision, so a lesson would be great.
Anyway, I’m not getting married soon, so that isn’t something I should be worried about now.
What I’m worried about is if I will get invited to those weddings. I haven’t been to a wedding in 12 years.
But if I give out a decent contribution to their wedding, they better invite me.
I have a killer dress I have been meaning to wear somewhere fancy, but I never find the time.
