World Introverts Week: You are not shy, just introverted

Shyness and introversion can be commonly mistaken to be the same thing.

Well, psychologists argue there is a major and compelling difference between the two. The difference has to do with choices.

Introverts can provide perspectives that others might not see, and many introverts often feel pressured to fit into society by acting extroverted; while others are often mistaken for being proud.

According to Dr Jonathan Cheek, professor of psychology at Wellesley College, introverts can choose to be social and interact with others, but they often just don't want to.

Shy people, depending on the level of shyness, can't make that same choice. Most shy people want to deal with people but overthinking, fear or anxiety limits them.

"Introversion and shyness get confused because they both are related to socializing, but lack of interest in socializing is very clearly not the same as fearing it." Sophia Dembling, the author of The Introvert's Way and Introverts in Love says in the book.

In most cases, shy people often struggle with self-esteem and not all introverts are shy. Some have excellent social skills, but they will always value their “alone” time as it helps them recharge.

While shy people are not the most comfortable with expressing themselves when speaking, introverts dislike small talk and like engaging in deep conversations, away from the crowd of course.

Introverts are often seen as shy because they don’t have many facial expressions but they can sometimes be talkative.

Shy people may have a lot in their minds but they choose to remain quiet most of the time and prefer being approached by others.

The first step is recognizing that being shy or an introvert is not a disorder and it is completely normal for one not to be a social butterfly.

Seeking professional help might help bring an understanding on whether you or your child are shy or being introverted.

World introverts week is celebrated annually, from 21st to 27th March.