Couples are scared that sex during pregnancy will harm their baby. But most fears and worries about sex during pregnancy are unnecessary. Here are the facts…
1) Not only is it safe, it’s good for you
Sex is generally safe during all stages of a normal pregnancy, but you should always check with your doctor to make sure there will be no problems. But otherwise, you can go on enjoying sex right up until your due date. And don’t be unnecessarily worried about your baby – he or she is well-protected. In fact, sex during pregnancy is good for you and your baby. It’s a pleasurable, full body workout that releases endorphins into the bloodstream, helping you to feel more relaxed and happy – feelings that are passed on to the little one growing within.
2) It’s all about position
As your pregnancy progresses and your body undergoes changes, some of your favourite sexual positions will no longer be comfortable or even possible. Some sex positions that put too much weight on the abdomen can make things painful for the mother. So be creative and start experimenting.
3) The rollercoaster of desire
During pregnancy, it is normal for both the mother and the father to experience a change in their level of sexual desire. Some will find themselves roaring with passion, others won't. Meanwhile, it’s perfectly normal for the mother’s partner to be extra aroused by all the changes occurring in her body, particularly her growing breasts!
4) Communication is key
The key to great lovemaking and intimacy during pregnancy is communication. Be open and honest with your feelings, especially if you have mixed thoughts about having sex. At the same time, encourage your partner to talk about their worries and desires, especially if there has been a noticeable change in their sexual behaviour.
5) When to practice abstinence
For some couples, particularly those with a history of miscarriage, doctors may advise to abstain during the first trimester. Likewise, your doctor may also advise abstinence during the last four weeks of pregnancy, due to the risks of infection from unprotected or oral sex. Abstinence is also essential if your cervix dilates prematurely, as this puts your baby at risk of infection.